I have a clear memory of laying in bed as a child, touring through the memories of the day and feeling connected to each person who figured.
With a sudden shock I realised that somehow I was separate from them. Though I could remember their words and actions, I could not sense their thought. My consciousness was contained within my own being. There were boundaries, where I ended and they each began.
It may have been that same night, it may have been another, when I thought the memories of my day - my life itself - was like a dream. Perhaps I could wake up (this was long before the film The Matrix had even been conceived, let alonge watched by my young self). The thought seemed immediately erroneous, because if I woke as some strange creature dreaming of being human, that creature too could surely wake. The life I was living, I concluded, was reality.
I don't know how old I was. No more than a few years, I believe.
This came to mind as I have introduced a new aspect to the review of the images pinned to my mental calendar that enable to me recall every day of the past 11 months since I began this process. I am now trying to recall not my view of the day, but that of my wife's. What she was doing, how she was feeling, how our life - and I myself - might appear to her.
It gave me that sensation from long ago in reverse, breaking down the boundaries of consciousness, of where I end and she begins.
It is giving me a fascinating fresh perspective on each day and our relationship.
It also makes me very grateful that the effort put into this process gives me this opportunity.
This blog is an investigation of what difference it makes if I can remember every day that passes. It also explores the science around memory and the role of intermittent fasting in delaying memory loss and other effects of ageing.
Sunday, 25 November 2012
Saturday, 24 November 2012
This time for love
I mentioned a while ago about using speed reading techniques to run through the images pinned to my mental calendar to keep down the time my reviews take.
But sometimes I feel a slower review is called for. The period I have been doing this covers the entire time my wife and I rented a flat in my country, which was one of the happiest times of my life.
So a couple of days ago while doing my usual morning review, I made a point of remembering my wife, what she was doing, how she was feeling, how we were getting on.
She doesn't figure in every memory tag, so for those days I might not remember anything specific.
But she figures in plenty.
Sometimes it is said people live on in the memories of those that love them.
This exercise brought home to me what that means.
In some ways it is beautiful to hold someone in your mind, but in others it is very frightening, because even remembering so much more than I used to, the memories are merely moments representing many hours.
I might add, I also realised my memories of someone reflect how I see them.
In the rush of life - and the rush of my review process - it is sometimes good to focus on the love.
But sometimes I feel a slower review is called for. The period I have been doing this covers the entire time my wife and I rented a flat in my country, which was one of the happiest times of my life.
So a couple of days ago while doing my usual morning review, I made a point of remembering my wife, what she was doing, how she was feeling, how we were getting on.
She doesn't figure in every memory tag, so for those days I might not remember anything specific.
But she figures in plenty.
Sometimes it is said people live on in the memories of those that love them.
This exercise brought home to me what that means.
In some ways it is beautiful to hold someone in your mind, but in others it is very frightening, because even remembering so much more than I used to, the memories are merely moments representing many hours.
I might add, I also realised my memories of someone reflect how I see them.
In the rush of life - and the rush of my review process - it is sometimes good to focus on the love.
Friday, 23 November 2012
How long does it take?
I run through the images pinned to my mental calendar pretty quickly these days.
I'm usually done in the time it takes me to wake up properly.
Recently (16 November) I did a day-by-day recall of the past nearly 11 months (I began this process on 17 December 2011) during my 30-minute morning run. It was plenty of time.
I'm usually done in the time it takes me to wake up properly.
Recently (16 November) I did a day-by-day recall of the past nearly 11 months (I began this process on 17 December 2011) during my 30-minute morning run. It was plenty of time.
Thursday, 22 November 2012
Eleven months
I now have over 11 months of memory tags, helping me to remember every day that passes.
In fact, as we left my wife's country on 19 November 2011 for my own, and had an eventful time when we arrived, I have added memory tags retrospectively for days before I began this process.
It is kind of nice to see where this is going. As time continues its relentless transit through the days, I will know exactly where I was and what I was doing on the same date the year before.
But I'm wondering how my current review method will bear up.
I'm not confident enough yet to let go of recalling three days per week from when I began this process on 17 December 2011 to a month before the present day, then every day for the past month. But it takes longer each time.
Hopefully some new method will emerge as the days overlap with a year ago.
In fact, as we left my wife's country on 19 November 2011 for my own, and had an eventful time when we arrived, I have added memory tags retrospectively for days before I began this process.
It is kind of nice to see where this is going. As time continues its relentless transit through the days, I will know exactly where I was and what I was doing on the same date the year before.
But I'm wondering how my current review method will bear up.
I'm not confident enough yet to let go of recalling three days per week from when I began this process on 17 December 2011 to a month before the present day, then every day for the past month. But it takes longer each time.
Hopefully some new method will emerge as the days overlap with a year ago.
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